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February Week 2 – Don’t Take Anything Personally


It’s not personal; it’s just someone else’s dream

“Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.”
– Don Miguel Ruiz

Yet day after day, we find ourselves taking things personally – comments people make, actions they take, and circumstances as they unfold.

We even take our own thoughts personally and direct anger, disappointment, and frustration inward at ourselves!!

When we take things personally, we are assuming that someone else is in your head – reading your mind and having full access to all of your perspectives and emotions. Yet, nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves. All people live in their own dream, in their own mind; they are in a completely different world from the one you live in. Yet, somehow we assume that they know everything in your mind; every reason you have for your choices; every emotion, fear, and weakness. We think everyone and everything in the world is clairvoyant into our own personal world. But that’s not the case.

Be open to feedback and immune to criticism. If you don’t take things personally, you are automatically immune to others’ comments. As Eleanor Roosevelt said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” Immunity to emotional poison is the gift of the agreement to not take anything personally.


When you take things personally, you feel a constriction. Often our reaction to this constriction is to be defensive – to try to prove to ourselves that we are right. But what are you defending anyway?

What you say, what you do, and all the opinions you have are woven from the threads of all the agreements you’ve made with yourself during your self-domestication and over the course of your life. And just as these opinions have nothing to do with the people around you, others opinions have nothing to do with you!!!

So during this week, put some attention on reminding yourself that everyone is living their own personal dream. Just when you are about to take something personally, silently whisper: “They are in their dream and I am in mine. Nothing about it is really personal at all.”

Keep meditating. Keep practicing the 2nd agreement. And keep opening your heart. The love of the universe will flow right in. See you in the gap. Peace. -davidji



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