The small woman
Builds cages for everyone
While the sage,
Who has to duck her head
When the moon is low,
Keeps dropping keys all night long
Welcome to this week’s edition of Life Tools where we discuss becoming more mindful about our tendencies to want to control everything around us. We are all subtle control freaks! (some of us not so subtle). And when we think we have lost control, then fear, anger, anxiety, stress, and disappointment set in.
Starting this week, I’m going to be traveling… a lot. Squaw Valley, Whistler, Lexington, Ireland, the Netherlands, San Diego, Portugal, the Yucatan… it’s going to be a wild ride!!! (Can’t wait to see all of you who will be joining me at these various events!!!)
And, no matter how meticulous my planning is, the only thing that’s certain when I travel is not everything goes as smoothly as I envisioned. There’s always a wrench in the cog, a bump in the road, a barrier to my destination.
And isn’t that the same in life? Lots of twists, turns, ups & downs. But you know what? Change is inevitable during our life’s journey, but always being in control? Well, that’s just futile.
So what do we do? How do we cope? We let it go.
If we can accept an uncontrollable change for what it is… accept the reality that we do not have full control over what happens in life, then it becomes easier to be graceful when change visits.
There are only a few things we can actually “control,” and turning our attention to those is the key:
- Our thoughts through meditation;
- Our words through impeccable & conscious speech; and
- Our actions through, as the Buddha said, right action… coming from a place of stillness.