Welcome to this week’s edition of The Source, where we’ll explore sitting with our emotions.
I’ve just returned from an amazing weekend in Fort Lauderdale for the Hay House’s very last I Can Do It! where I had a truly blessed opportunity to commune with more than 2,000 spiritual warriors. Here’s a clip from my keynote.
I cover emotions in several chapters in my book “destressifying,” and it’s a core topic of many of my retreats at the Meditation Nest. If we don’t truly understand our emotions, they can often hold us hostage in a cycle that can be difficult to break.
“I don’t want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them.” ―Oscar Wilde
We live each moment of our life through the ebb and flow of emotions. It’s almost as if each beat of our heart, and every breath we take, move us in one direction or another. We are a bundle of conditioned emotions that are primed to respond to the momentary assessment of whether our needs have been met or not.
Our natural reaction to pain is to shirk from it – to pull back… to run from it, hide from it, or push it away. And we can pretty much do that with everything that comes at us in our life. Yet, if we spend our lives dodging every uncomfortable emotion that bubbles up, we stay in the same constricted place.
To live a bold, rich, growth-filled and ever-evolving life, we need to acknowledge and accept the thorns in life just as we celebrate the beauty in it. A gentle start to this process is to sit with your emotions as they arise and let them unfold – to truly feel them!
A rookie mistake for so many Spiritual Warriors on the path to one-ness is the desire to only want to see sunshine and rainbows in every moment – but in the process they deny their growth, they deny their humanity, they deny their potential. The moment we restrict ourselves to only “good news” or only “pleasant” experiences is the moment we stop living.
To understand that in our brokenness and sadness, we embrace our wholeness… and the wholeness of life, is one of the most important lessons we as human beings can learn. If we deny our own pain, how can we truly have compassion for someone else’s?
When you suppress emotions, you’re likely to express them inadvertently in other avenues by being snide, sarcastic, snarky, retaliatory, biting, harsh, or downright mean to people who had nothing to do with your initial frustration. Suppressing our feelings is now scientifically proven to lead to poor memory, relationship challenges, and deeper health issues as our body is influenced so strongly by our subjective conscious experiences.
We can rise above the constriction by heightening our emotional intelligence, by learning to sit with our emotions and working toward “owning” these four capabilities:
- Correctly perceive emotions
- Retrieve and produce emotions to assist thought
- Comprehend emotions and understand them, and
- Effectively adjust emotions to promote personal development and growth
If you don’t know how you feel or why you feel a certain way, you will experience emotional overwhelm or confusion and won’t be able to communicate effectively, meet your needs, or resolve disagreements. But if we master our emotional intelligence, we will flow with less stress and make better decisions. And, the more successful we are at heightening these core skill sets, the happier and more fulfilled we will be.
Before I ever shared these teachings with others, I studied emotional healing for a decade under Dr. David Simon, & attended the Hoffman Institute, where I was taught to deconstruct my emotional blue print. I then spent five years, reconstructing it. I began integrating these powerful teachings into my workshops, immersions, retreats, and Teacher Trainings where thousands have experienced emotional breakthroughs & stepped into their power.
I encourage you to join me this Coming March for my Manifesting Your Dream Life immersion where I will teach you these powerful techniques to release the emotional baggage that has often derailed our best plans. In this gentle, yet potent & proven process, together we will ensure that this year truly unfolds as the most fulfilling year of your life!
The beauty of EI is that it’s not a function of simply being born with a high EQ; our personal emotional intelligence can be learned, cultivated and mastered. Although daily intelligence is important to succeeding in life, emotional intelligence is key to achieving your goals. In this process, you will learn to meet more of your own needs!
I’ll see you on the gap!! Peace. -davidji